This is a Letter to the Editor sent in by Allison, a resident of Portales. She writes in during Pride Month to explain some simple things to keep in mind about transgender people and issues they may face.

Hi everyone, I want to take a moment to share something personal with you. My name is Allison, I’m a transgender woman. this means that the gender I was assigned at birth doesn’t align with the gender I identify as. I know this may be a new concept for some people, but being transgender is a very real and valid experience. It is not a choice or a phase, but rather an essential part of who I am. For me, coming out has been a difficult but necessary step towards living a happier life. It’s an ongoing journey and it hasn’t always been easy, but I am grateful for the support of my friends and some family members. I want to take this opportunity to remind everyone that transgender people deserve love, respect, and acceptance just like anyone else. We have the right to live our lives authentically and safe. 

When interacting with a transgender person, it’s important to remember that they are individuals with their own unique experiences and perspectives. It’s important to approach the conversation with respect and sensitivity, and to ask questions that are appropriate and relevant to the context of the conversation. Here are some potential questions that may be appropriate:

1. What pronouns do you prefer? 
2. What name do you go by? 
3. How can I be a good ally to the transgender community? 
4. Is there anything specific you would like me to know or understand about your experience as a transgender person? 

It’s important to keep in mind that not all transgender people will feel comfortable discussing their gender identity with others, and that it is never appropriate to ask invasive or overly personal questions. Here are some examples of questions that are generally considered inappropriate to ask:

1. What was your previous name? 
2. Have you had surgery to transition? 
3. Are you planning on having surgery to transition? 
4. What did your family think when you came out as transgender? 
5. Are you taking hormones? 
6. Do you have a partner? Are they also transgender? 
7. How do you have sex? 

Ultimately, it’s important to approach the conversation with empathy, respect, and a willfulness to listen and learn. It’s important to avoid asking invasive or inappropriate questions when interacting with a transgender person. 

If you have any questions or want to show your support, there are a lot of local groups who will be willing to answer your questions. Let’s work together to create a world where everyone can express their gender without fear of judgment or discrimination.